We all become angry at times. It does not easily or quickly go away but rather can smolder inside and sometimes may burst out and result in sin. “In your anger do not sin” is a reminder that one can often be led from anger into sin. The apostle goes on to say, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Eph 4:25-26). If we do so, we will be giving the devil a “foothold.”
People often do not act or say what we think they should. This sometimes leads to anger. We should deal with our personal differences quickly and in a godly manner. If possible, the matter should be discussed openly (Mt 18: 15-18). This should be without raising our voice or becoming violent. “The wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1 :20). The silent treatment may be a way of showing our anger, whereas talking openly and promptly explaining your feelings should help. Then follow with your gentle proposal for a solution. Make every effort to avoid bitterness, wrath, malice and evil speaking (Eph 4:31). Hopefully, this will preserve and even enhance a friendly relationship.
Occasions of tension are times when prayer will help us overcome harsh and hurtful words. Because ill-feelings can arise so quickly and can so easily damage friendly relationships, it is good to remember to “pray without ceasing” (I Thess 5: 17). Let us strive to imitate Jesus’ attitude, His speech and His action when He met with opposition.
[Thanks Scott Carmen for contributing to this study]